If you're basing any of this off of what the multiplayer server selection screen says, then you're a bit in the wrong. For myself, it always shows my DLC is as in the red (even though I have them), and sometimes, the same with my mods (even though everything works just fine).
As long as you're connecting and it's not booting you (due to mods not being properly installed), then you're fine. Arma's Green/Red light system, while a nice feature to let one know what mods are on the server, should not be used to determine if your mods are correct.